There is nothing that adequately prepares us for the most important job there isâ??parenting. Children and teens do not come with an ownerâ??s manual, and most of our training is on the job. With our own parents as our most prominent role models, we tend to repeat what we have learned about parenting from them. We do our best, learn as we go, and make our own mistakes along the way; but we donâ??t have to leave our parenting to chance. We can become more effective parents. We can parent with more confidence instead of frustration. Parenting can be enjoyable and rewarding instead of stressful.Â
Following are some parenting tips for improving communication and building healthy and respectful relationships with our children and teens.Â
(1) Show interest in your kids
One of the best ways to get anyone to talk is to show interest in them and what is important to them. Sports, music, or any other activity provides great ways to connect and share. Become engaged in whatever it is your child or teen enjoys. It can be anything–watching a football game together, listening to songs and talking about favorite artists, watching your child draw or build model cars, or helping your daughter with her hair and nails.Â
(2) Initiate conversations
Often parents begin conversations with a question instead of simply sharing their thoughts. Kids are more likely to engage in conversations when they do not feel they have to explain or defend themselves. Letting them know you are thinking about them and that you care about what is happening in their lives are good ways to initiate conversations. Timing is important as well. Good times to talk might be bedtime, while driving, or at dinner.
(3) Make yourself available
Sometimes parents get so busy and donâ??t realize that their children feel there is no time left for them. They do not express this directly saying, â??You know, Iâ??ve been feeling neglected lately. It seems youâ??re so busy with everything and everyone else and donâ??t make time for me. And when you are with me, you seem preoccupied and distracted.â?  They might, instead, distance themselves or act out for some negative attention. Making time for kids can be a sacrifice, especially for very busy parents, but the investment is well worth it. Developing a good relationship with oneâ??s children requires timeâ??both quality time and quantity of time. Planning weekly one-on-one time with no distractions is a good idea. Kids want to know that they are important and valued. Making yourself available to them communicates this loud and clear.
(4) Be a good listener
You know you have heard someone correctly when they feel understood. One way to do this is to repeat what you think you heard back to them. They will clarify what they meant if they think you are genuinely interested and trying to understand them.  Kids also need to feel safe when sharing their thoughts, with no fear of judgment, being cut off, or causing an angry reaction.  It is important to resist arguments and criticism. When there are disagreements, parents can express that it is okay to disagree. Although their thoughts and feelings differ, they are not rejecting their child. Parents and their children will encounter many differences in opinion. However, being a good listener lets your children know that you understand where they are coming from without lecturing or threatening.Â
(5) Use words to motivate
If you see your children and teens as winners, beautiful, and full of potential, they will know it and act on it. It will show in how you treat them and what you say. As a result, they will believe in themselves as well. Your words have power. The words of a parent can motivate and empower for a lifetime. They can also discouraged and break a childâ??s spirit if they are negative and critical. We can all recall things our parents have said about us that we have carried with us throughout our lives, such as: I believe in you. You can do anything you set your mind to. You are so smart and creative. Or, you will never amount to anything. You do not have what it takes. You are the ugly one of the family.  Let us choose our words carefully. Speaking good things over them, blessing them with our words motivates them to fulfill their purpose in life.
It is not easy parenting children and teens and knowing what to say or how to bring out the best in them.  Feeling connected and getting along with our kids takes time and effort. The goods news is that parents and teens can have healthy connections that are founded upon trust and unconditional love. The parenting tips provided above are a good start to better communication and a more rewarding parenting experience. For more tips or help with problems, parents may benefit from parenting classes or family counseling.Â
Copyright 2010 All Rights Reserved. Written by Krystal Kuehn. NewDayCounseling.org & BeHappy4Life.com
Children need love, especially when they donâ??t deserve it. ~anonymous
Love is the greatest gift that one generation can leave to another. ~Richard Garnett
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Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a psychotherapist, author, teacher and musician. She is the cofounder of New Day Counseling Services, a family counseling and child teen counseling center, and BeHappy4Life.com, an award-winning, a self-help and personal growth site where you can find hundreds of free resources, insights and inspiration.
I recently had lunch with my 21 year old son. We sat at a table next to two acquaintances, a 13 year old girl and her mother. My son and I were having a great time, sharing stories, laughing, and enjoying each otherâ??s company. While her mom and I were getting drinks, the young girl said to my son, â??I know thatâ??s your mom, but you act like friends.â?
He told her that I am his mom but Iâ??m his friend too. She was fascinated by that concept. She said, â??Iâ??m not friends with my mom. She doesnâ??t even know anything about me. She brought me water with lemon and I donâ??t even like lemon.â?Â
Still fascinated by the concept, she asked him when he and his mother became friends. He told her that it was probably when he got older. She told him that her sister is 21 and her sister and her mother are definitely not friends.Â
As I thought about that conversation, I realized that is possible to be friends with your kids, as long as you parent first. My husband and I were fairly strict parents, and our kids knew the ground rules. As long as they stayed within the boundaries, we appreciated them for the people they became. There were certainly punishments along the way when our kids definitely didnâ??t consider us friends. But, there were never surprises. They knew the rules and they were aware of the consequences for breaking those rules.
Now, I am proud to consider my children friends. At 21 years old, my disciplining of my son is pretty much over. I can still provide advice and guide him through new experiences, but I adore the adult heâ??s become.
 So, in order to create the best relationship you can with your kids, remember that you are their parent first.
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I produced the Romper Room and Friends TV show and Bowling for Dollars when I worked for Claster Television in the ’80’s and ’90’s. With three kids of my own, I stopped working there in 1996. Today I am a freelance writer and preschool teacher and I am in the process of publishing my first book about preschool advice for parents. Check out my blog at www.preschoolteach.blogspot.com Please contact me at: terribakman@gmail.com
Every day, approximately 4,700 American youth under age 18 try marijuana for the first time. That is about equal to the enrollment of six average-sized U.S. high schools. In 2003, nearly nine out of 10 twelfth graders reported marijuana as being accessible. By the time they finish the eighth grade, approximately 50 percent of adolescents have had at least one drink, and more than 20 percent report having been “drunk.” Drug and alcohol use by teens increases the risk of addiction and can change the developing brain for life.
Despite these statistics, one thing remains true: Parents are the most important influence in a teen’s decisions about drug use. You can and do make a difference. If you suspect or know that your child is using drugs, take action now, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to deal with your child’s drug use.
Whether you are a parent, grandparent or any other person who cares about a child’s future, it is important that you have knowledge about how to prevent teen drug abuse. It’s hard for us to imagine that a child we love could end up using drugs. But chances are, most children will be faced with, “Should I, or shouldn’t I?” As parents we must teach our children to know that the answer is, “I shouldn’t, and I won’t.”
Here are some facts about kids and drug use: Forty percent of U.S. teens say they expect to use a drug in the future. One out of every five kids in eighth grade has already tried marijuana. Use of substances such as marijuana and inhalants can result in social consequences (e.g., failing in school) and physical consequences such as reduced stamina and fitness or damage to the lungs and brain. Teens who smoke cigarettes are more likely to drink alcohol. Teens who smoke and drink are more likely to use marijuana. And those who use all three are more likely to use other illicit drugs. Long-term studies show that use of other illicit drugs among youth almost never occurs unless they have first used marijuana.
If you suspect your teen has been using drugs or drinking alcohol, it’s important to act quickly: the longer your teen abuses substances, the more likely they are to become addicted. If you do find the problem is beyond your expertise, there are teen drug treatment programs that specialize in the special needs of this population.
Be especially scrutinizing as you determine the drug rehab program that meets your child’s specific needs. Many of these teen programs also offer boarding school academics so they can continue to earn credits while recovering from their addiction.
Every day, approximately 4,700 American youth under age 18 try marijuana for the first time. That is about equal to the enrollment of six average-sized U.S. high schools. In 2003, nearly nine out of 10 twelfth graders reported marijuana as being accessible. By the time they finish the eighth grade, approximately 50 percent of adolescents have had at least one drink, and more than 20 percent report having been “drunk.” Drug and alcohol use by teens increases the risk of addiction and can change the developing brain for life.
Despite these statistics, one thing remains true: Parents are the most important influence in a teen’s decisions about drug use. You can and do make a difference. If you suspect or know that your child is using drugs, take action now, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to deal with your child’s drug use.
Whether you are a parent, grandparent or any other person who cares about a child’s future, it is important that you have knowledge about how to prevent teen drug abuse. It’s hard for us to imagine that a child we love could end up using drugs. But chances are, most children will be faced with, “Should I, or shouldn’t I?” As parents we must teach our children to know that the answer is, “I shouldn’t, and I won’t.”
Here are some facts about kids and drug use: Forty percent of U.S. teens say they expect to use a drug in the future. One out of every five kids in eighth grade has already tried marijuana. Use of substances such as marijuana and inhalants can result in social consequences (e.g., failing in school) and physical consequences such as reduced stamina and fitness or damage to the lungs and brain. Teens who smoke cigarettes are more likely to drink alcohol. Teens who smoke and drink are more likely to use marijuana. And those who use all three are more likely to use other illicit drugs. Long-term studies show that use of other illicit drugs among youth almost never occurs unless they have first used marijuana.
If you suspect your teen has been using drugs or drinking alcohol, it’s important to act quickly: the longer your teen abuses substances, the more likely they are to become addicted. If you do find the problem is beyond your expertise, there are teen drug treatment programs that specialize in the special needs of this population.
Be especially scrutinizing as you determine the drug rehab program that meets your child’s specific needs. Many of these teen programs also offer boarding school academics so they can continue to earn credits while recovering from their addiction.
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As a new parent you face many problems and issues that you need to understand and deal with immediately. Newborns do not come with an instruction book so here is some information on some things that you need to know about.
Bathing your baby: Your baby’s umbilical cord will fall off in about one to two weeks after they are born. Until it falls out, you should only give your baby sponge baths. You could dampen a cotton ball or cotton swab with alcohol to help dry the umbilical stump or simply follow your pediatrician’s directions. You can give him a bath in a sink or shallow tub after the stump falls off.
Caesarian delivery: A caesarian is usually performed to make delivery safer for you or your baby. C-sections can be done for many different reasons including stalled labor, complicated labor, problems with the baby that may make delivery difficult, or other problems. It does not matter if you deliver vaginally or by a caesarian section, you are still a mother with a beautiful new blessing.
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Circumcision: A lot of doctors feel that there are many benefits to having your baby circumcised, but it may not be absolutely necessary. It may help to reduce the risk of urinary tract infections and eliminates just about any chance of penile cancer. Circumcision will not cause any long-term emotional problems for your child.
Crib death (SIDS): Many studies have been done regarding SIDS. Although the cause of SIDS has not been definitely defined, there are some correlations that have been made between SIDS and the following things: Female babies are less likely to die from SIDS than Male Babies The risk is greater with premature birth Minority children are more likely to be affected by SIDS than non-minority children are. More children of young, single mothers die of SIDS Smoking in the home greatly increases the risk of SIDS
Some people think that sleeping with your baby is okay and continue to let their babies sleep with them. The American Academy of Pediatrics disagrees with this and says that there is a greater risk of SIDS in babies who sleep with another person. Babies should sleep alone in a cradle or crib either next to or near an adult. You should never put pillows, blankets, stuffed animals or anything that might put your baby at risk in their bed.
Most pediatricians recommend that babies sleep on their back to decrease the risk of SIDS. The reason for this is widely debated between health experts. If you have concerns please talk to your pediatrician. There are no dumb questions when it comes to the health and safety of your child, so please don’t be afraid to ask for help.
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Just recently, CNN reported a heart-breaking news about a Berkeley teen who was convicted in the murder of his father. The victim was raising three kids on his own when one of them, for reasons unknown, murdered him with a gunshot to the head. The judge handling the case found the 16-year-old teen guilty of first-degree murder with an enhancement for using a gun in the death of his 40-year-old father.
When the teen was sentenced, the judge could have him locked up in the California Division of Juvenile Justice until he reaches the age of 25. He could also face a variety of other sentences, including being placed on probation and sent home, being sent to a group home or placed in minimum security reform centers. Regardless of what happens, a life was lost and the life of the teenager and those of his siblings are put in jeopardy with the uneventful passing of their father who is supposed to guide them in today’s chaotic environment.
Teen violence is increasingly becoming one of the most serious problems of modern society. It is a curse not only for the victim but for his/her family and the entire society as well. It is also responsible for thousands of deaths every year around the world. This kind of violence alienates the victim from his/her family, friends and loved ones. Teenagers who engage in violence, generally try to keep themselves away from everyone. Psychologists explain that they do so for the sake of getting away from social embarrassment. Teen abuse lawyers advocate that the victim must get proper legal support at such delicate phase of her/his life.
Young adults are complicated, inquisitive, and filled with potential. Once left unchecked, they can blow up in a million pieces, causing problems resulting to irreparable damage or even death. This is precisely the reason why parents are endowed with the moral obligation to guide their teens during this crucial stage in their lives.
Oftentimes teenagers find their peer groups to be more significant to them than their parents. This being the case, it is as if parents are handling over the life of their teen to the type of group he/she may belong to. With this change come different expectations. This is why friends are such a key developmental and influential factor in the teenage years. Many teens who get involved in gangs are simply trying to live out their new group’s expectations rather than their parents’. Adolescents are all on an equal plane when it comes to violent behavior. Regardless of background, almost all adolescents become significantly more violent after puberty and it drops off again somewhere in their mid-20s.
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Teenagers seem to be living in a world of their own. It seems that you get them all figured out one day and the next day they do something completely off the wall. You should understand that a teenagers behavior will be quite unexpected to say the least, and even the model teenager can exhibit strange and radical behavior at the least expected moment.
When you are looking at your teenagers behavior, keep in mind that they are going through many changes, and that they can’t even explain what is going on and can be quite erratic. This is most often due to the hormone level changes in their bodies. The girl is becoming a woman and not only is her body changing, but she has to adapt emotionally to the changes that are happening. This holds the same for the boys. They are becoming men in all ways, and are experiencing rapid changes as well. If you think you have the perfect teenager, and then suddenly one day they come home drunk, you will feel quite lost and not know what to do. You need to react in a calm manner, and help your child deal with it.
When dealing with teenagers behavior you must keep your guard up at all times and expect the unexpected. It can change rapidly from day to day, and if you know what you can possibly expect, then you will be better prepared to deal with it. When anything comes up and there has been a change in your teenagers behavior, you can look for things that have changed prior to that. You may be able to spot something out of the ordinary that has occurred, or you may not. It may just be hormones and the best thing you can do is feed them properly and make sure they get enough sleep. Handling teenagers behavior is a day by day process sometimes.
Teenagers behavior will usually include a lot of sleep. You may in fact wonder how they could possibly sleep so much, but usually it is their bodies that are growing at such a rapid pace that makes them need this incredible amount of sleep. You should go to a website to read more information about the needs of the changing teenager and how you as a parent can deal with these issues. Always remember you were once a teenager.
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Over the past few decades there has been a drastic change in sexual behavior among teenagers. It is quite glaring that teen females have gradually become more liberated and sexually aggressive, to the point of being promiscuous. There is absolutely an upheaval in the sexual context of what is socially acceptable and what is not. Teenage behavior has changed dramatically and it appears to veer toward homosexual behaviors. There seems to be more awareness of sex-linked diseases and teenage pregnancy has generally become more acceptable.
Whatever norms that society has set in the past seem to have gone out the window. Some teens create their own norms based on what they â??feelâ? instead of what is socially acceptable as appropriate behavior. Sadly, some teens have the notion that if something feels good, then it should be okay. No one can argue that sex is going to feel good. It should feel good because it was designed that way, but it doesnâ??t mean that it is appropriate all the time.
Sex ought to be something quite intimate â?? almost sacred, but it has become an art among todayâ??s teenagers. Teens have found ways to engage in sex without inducing pregnancy. Sex itself has become a multi-million dollar industry. People know that sex sells, especially among teens. Go to the mall and youâ??ll see public displays of sexuality in some of the windows of shops. Go online and itâ??s basically the same scenario. You may even hear negative comments from teens about such stores yet they still have a strong desire to shop in such stores. Sex now has a price tag and is currently marketed as being fulfilling and romantic. It is apparently safe and easy and one can simply walk away with no strings attached.
Such a radical shift in the concept of sex among teenagers has been largely influenced by media, by peers, and by the culture and locations in which they live. There are three reasons why teens engage in sex as some form of recreation. These include irresponsible parents, puberty and desire, and the need for love. As soon as the word love comes into the picture, the green light for having sex greatly increases. If a boy professes love for a girl, then she becomes more likely to succumb to sexual pressure than if he doesnâ??t.
Parents need to constantly show their love to their teens because if the need for love is being met, they wonâ??t have to look for it in the arms of another teen. Parents need to explain the emotional impact and the repercussions that come along with giving oneâ??s sexuality to another. They need to help teenagers look past the fleeting pleasure derived from sex. Teens should learn to set lifetime goals for the future and consider whether having a child would fit into those goals. By having a clear set of goals for the future, teens wonâ??t be easily swept by a sudden surge of emotions and they would be smart enough to gauge whether having a child is worth the risk of engaging into a momentary act of passion. Finally, parents must impart the value of self-control. Talk to your teen, explain to them how modern society is portraying sexuality and personal convictions. Keep them informed so they wonâ??t be tempted to try something that they would regret later on.
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WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?
Not that it’s not proper to dream bout your child’s future, it’s just that things happens differently in real life.
THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENT.
You cannot go into any store to acquire your parenting skills nor can you download parenting skills on the internet.
HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING.
To know your own child – we are all different by nature, and we all have a unique character aspect that identifies us to be ourselves. It is a proven fact that most children copy their parents’ actions and even their mannerisms, and desires to follow their footsteps, but there’s also those who doesn’t want to become like their parents and most of the time defies them. The children that rebels against what you (as the parent) have been used to are the ones you’ll need implement good parenting skills with, they will definitely upset you and also leave you feeling discouraged at times.
PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB.
Any money that this world can offer cannot buy a child’s laughter, kisses and meaningful hugs. Parenting is nothing but a continuous process. Remember, parenting is never as easy as you would think it is going to be. Many parents face the problem of trying to find the right solutions to help their child with their problems so rest assured you are not the only parent with this problem. However, there can also be a thick and crooked line of parenting if you make and if you make a mistake or bad move you will end up falling.
TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE
As young as two years old, a child can start learning to do easy chores. Do not be surprised if you discover that you’re really seeking to fulfill what you lacked in your childhood. When your child has responsibilities, (even at a tender age) they too feels proud of their achievements and often feel needed, feel important and of course feel loved.
GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD.
In order to gain more cooperation from your child, try to think preventative – A lot of children develop a pattern of negativity and some specific triggers can set a child off at any moment in time therefore try to look for that trigger resulting in your child’s defiance and then attempt to alter that pattern so that your child will be successful and more cooperative. Is you child the defiant type? Well, to deal with your defiant child is truly exasperating. Always relate your command as a statement, and never as a your child a question – Most parents are prone to saying, “Would you like to star doing your homework now?” and other commands which should always be stated using a firm voice such as saying, “It’s time to work on your homework now”, which can help you gain more cooperation from your child.
COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS.
However, as kids approach the age of ten or maybe eleven they may start to rebel against this as a lot of their school friends are already permitted to go off and play by themselves. Children are growing up faster nowadays and at the average age of ten or even eleven they’re almost like young adults already. Give your child some freedom, so that they can start learning on their own and how to do things alone. Do not let fear overcome you, the joyful experience that a child can bring to their parents is enough to pay for all the hardships that you will endure in rearing a good child.
MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME.
You do not need to perform a major makeover in starting to increase your quality time that you and your family spend together.
Whatever issues you may face with your child, there is always hope. Even though there is no such thing as an instant cure or quick fix as children develop behavior and emotional issues over time, there is always a way out and a system that truly works.
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A colleague of mine, Adam Jones, has been working with aggressive and troubled teens for years. He is the president of the Harbor House Foundation, “a ministry that contributes it’s resources to the health and well being of parents and students.”
Adam learned very important truths for managing defiant and aggressive behavior in teens through the years of working with struggling and aggressive youth. I had the privilege of corresponding with him a couple days ago. I asked him, “If you had to choose, what are the top 3 ways that a parent or guardian can manage a teen’s aggressive and defiant behavior?”
Over time we will learn more about how these strategies help you in your home, and also how they actually apply even if you are doing everything right.
Here are the three tips we believe help an aggressive teen. It has to do mainly with how you interact and what things you do or say as the parent. Your response alone can either make or break a conversation with your teen. With that knowledge, this can really benefit and build your relationship with your teen. It can also hurt it.
The Parent Must Control Themselves
A parent has to control themselves or the conversation or argument with their teen WILL get out of control. A lot of the time, or most of the time, adolescents push their parent’s buttons. For some it is intentional, and for some it isn’t. Some teens act defiant and rebellious because they are wanting your to respond quickly and out of anger. As a parent, you cannot let your teen’s rebellious behavior ignite you.
If you are always arguing with your teen, or if you lose your cool because your teen is not obeying at all, your teen just learned how to respond to situations that don’t go their way. Whether you see it or not, your teens look to you as an example, and a lot of the time, their words won’t tell you that.
The Parent Must Recognize Potential Aggressiveness in Their Teen
We’ll talk about this more in future articles so that you will be able to fully understand the signs of aggression and how to identify and use them to your advantage. Have you ever heard of WAVE? These are the signs of potential aggression in teens. WAVE stands for: wind up, agitation, verbal abuse, and explosion.
The Parent Must Remove Themselves if They Are the Source of the Problem
A teen becomes very defiant and aggressive if their parents don’t control themselves and if their parents are instigating and not setting a good example. A parent that instigates their child is the worst ingredient for managing aggressive behavior, because instigation simply ignites aggressive behavior.
There are three areas that need addressing as well in aggressive teens. They are prevention, intervention, and post-vention. These are times that the parent intervenes. Which time is best? While they are yelling, before, or after?
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If asked if you are you an “awakened” parent you would probably pause to consider what that actually means. What constitutes being an awakened parent? Many equate the term “awakened” with “eyes wide-opened” or being “aware”. In terms of parenting, to be awakened means to be conscious of what your role as a parent consists of…examining your role, determining if it is working to produce the results you intend, and finally, making necessary changes to achieve those goals.
Parenting is not an exact science. There are no “proven” parenting methods available. The obvious reason being there are no two children exactly alike. Human beings are unique.
There is however a common thread in parents.
When you ask people, “What do you feel has the greatest value in your life?” Some may say their home, some their stock portfolio, others their diamonds or their sports car.
When asked this question many automatically think in terms of material wealth. But if you ask if they’d be willing to trade the life of their child for those things, without exception, the answer would be a resounding NO! Our children are what we value most in the world.
We live in a society where parents have more resources to be better educated about how to raise their children than ever before. There’s an abundance of books available on how to produce children who are healthy, happy, and successful.
In fact, the market reflects that sales are at an all time high. Bookstores are overflowing with books covering every aspect of child rearing, including developmental stages, brain development, nutrition, healthy habits, and safety.
That being said, parents need to ask themselves the following questions:
Why in the last year have 84% of public schools reported incidents of crime to the police? Why has teen suicide had its highest increase in 15 years? Why then are anti-depressants prescribed for more than 52% of our children and teenagers? Why has illegal drug use become an unbeatable war, with over 1/3 of children in the U.S. using them? Why has “bullying” become the number one topic on the minds of millions of parents?
Parents are looking for help. Many parents are confused about how to deal with these problems. They are not certain which approach is the right one. They have tried everything to no avail and end up feeling guilty and question whether they are good parents.
First, parents must examine their parenting method and ask themselves some tough questions.
Does your parenting method match the struggles your children face? Are you equipped to deal with the subject of peer pressure, bullying, lying, drugs, alcohol, and sex to name a few? And the most important question, are you raising your children in a way that empowers them with the skills to successfully meet these types of challenges?
There has been a major shift in thinking in the last 10 years. Breakthroughs in science, medicine, and psychology have caused people to question traditional methods of thinking, believing and operating…and opened doors to new and alternative possibilities. U.S. health officials report that Americans spent $33.9 billion out-of-pocket on complementary and alternative medicine in 2007 alone.
Continuing education for health care professionals in the areas of both physical and mental health offer many courses in alternative approaches to medical care, including courses that incorporate the principles and power of the law of attraction.
These principles are also being taught in teacher’s workshops, in sabbatical programs for people in ministry, to parenting groups, and to the general public.
As a large part of that market, books on the law of attraction have received growing attention in recent years. Tremendously successful books like Think and Grow Rich, written by Napoleon Hill, 1937, The Magic of Believing, by Claude M. Bristol, 1948, and You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay, 1984, brought attention to the principles of the law of attraction and popularized the concept that thoughts and beliefs impact your health, success, relationships, and create your reality.
But it was when Rhonda Byrne’s film entitled, The Secret, hit the market in 2006, and her book by the same title was released in 2007, that the term “The Law of Attraction” became a household word. It was featured on Larry King Live and Oprah and created quite a stir around the world. That same year, Esther and Jerry Hicks’ book, “The Law of Attraction”, which was published in 2006, catapulted to the New York Times bestseller list.
Many authors have had an impact in opening people’s minds to the incredible power of the law of attraction: Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Joe Vitale and other teachers featured in The Secret, as well as countless others…too many to name.
And now, people who are also parents have become “awakened” to the fact that these same principles, based on the law of attraction, when taught to their children will create a mindset that says they can do and become whatever they choose. Their children know they are worthy of all they desire, understand they have within them the power to choose what is positive, and that they are the creators of their lives.
With this mindset, children become confident, believe in themselves and enjoy a healthy self-esteem. They learn to be pro-active rather than re-active. Understanding the principles of the universal law of attraction and the miracles it promises and delivers removes the “victim” mentality and replaces it with one of responsibility and choice.
In this New Year, 2010, we as parents are blessed with the knowledge of the amazing power of the law of attraction and the enormous difference it makes in our lives. The real value lies in the fact that when integrated into our lives and our children’s lives it is successful for everyone. There are no age requirements, no pre-set criteria. It is a universal law. Those who choose be an “awakened parent” have the opportunity to give their children a gift that will insure their journey through life will be one of true inner happiness.
About the Author:
Denny Hagel, founder of Innovative Parenting LLC, home to the “Missing Secret to Parenting”, is co-author of “The Law of Attraction: The Next Generation”. Her passion is teaching the principles of the law of attraction to children to provide them with the skills to live their best life!
For more information and insights click on:
=>http://www.InnovativeParentingLLC.com
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